5 Signs You Have Captured Your “Unicorn”

      Let’s start with defining what a “Unicorn” actually is, in the metaphorical sense. Most definitions you read will describe a unicorn in superficial terms, as a woman who is so beautiful, she stops you in your tracks. She will literally be the most beautiful woman that you’ve ever seen, who will 9 times out of 10 never give you the time of day. A true “Unicorn” however in my opinion is something very different. The term “Unicorn” is basically the millennials slang for “The One”. A true unicorn is not a person, but a feeling of pure oneness with another human being. They may be beautiful, average, or unattractive, by society’s standards, but they will be absolutely perfect for YOU.

      There is no standard for a prototypical unicorn, because what defines a unicorn to one person, may be different for someone else. The reason we call it a unicorn, is because the idea of finding your perfect partner seems almost unfathomable. The reality is that most of us will go through our lives, never finding that person that truly checks every box on our list of intangibles our perfect mate will possess. This is why the term “Unicorn”, is so accurate a word to use in the aspect of finding your “One”. Because when you find this person, it will be a feeling, and a vision of love you have never seen before. It will seem magical, because it will be a spiritual connection that you have never felt with anyone else. Unlike finding and capturing the mystical unicorn, capturing your unicorn is not impossible. Finding your “One” is not a fantasy, but a real possibility. Below are some signs you can look for in a partner, to help you know if you have captured your “Unicorn”.

They are Your Vision of Perfection

          

     Do you look at that person you’re with, and honestly get that feeling that you have never seen anyone more beautiful in your eyes? Far beyond physical beauty, the beauty you see in your unicorn will go much deeper. You will see beauty in the little things they do, the little quirks, and even their downfalls. Yes, to you they will be the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen on the outside, but that is because when you look at them, you will at the same time be seeing what you find beautiful about them within. You can no longer focus on only a part of them because it is the whole of them that makes them the most beautiful to you. In a superficial world, that is rare. If find yourself seeing someone that way, you have something very special. Embrace it, and appreciate it. You have captured your unicorn.

You Communicate on a Different Level

            

     The way you communicate with your unicorn will be different than any type of communication you’ve had with another person. You will understand each other, because you will connect with one another in a way that allows you to be completely open. Being open will allow you to get to know each other and learn from one another, because barriers will be non-existent. You will have disagreements at times just like any normal couple does, but you will work through them because your connection with them, will overpower your desire to be selfish.

     You will not have knockdown, drag out fights, but at most elevated and passionate discussions that will serve as learning experiences. You will work on meeting one another’s needs together, because you will communicate openly what those needs are. There will never be topics you can’t discuss, and the conversation will not diminish over time, but grow and flourish as you progress as a couple. Communication is the most powerful tool in a relationship, and with your unicorn it will be something you thrive at. You will communicate so well, that at times you will both sit back and marvel at it. You will then find yourselves talking to each other, about how much you appreciate how well you communicate. It seems surreal, but when you find the person you communicate with on that level, what seems unimaginable will suddenly be a very real, and very natural part of your relationship.

You will be the Best You for Them

             

     There will be no want, or try, in terms of being the best person you can be for your unicorn. You will feel a need to make sure you are. You will value your partnership with this person so much, that the selfish ideals of “I am who I am”, or “I can’t change” will not be an option to you anymore. We all have things about ourselves we can be better at, both for us and our relationships. You will work to ensure that you are making those changes and growing. You won’t do it alone, because your unicorn will be working on themselves right alongside you. You will support each other and discuss your downfalls, and work together to improve on them.   Growth in your relationships will be of the up-most importance in your list of priorities. You will be willing to do whatever it takes to give your best for that person, and they will do the same for you. You both will fail at times, because no one is perfect, but you will pick each other up. You will build off of those failures, together and keep working, because there is no such thing as giving up when you’ve found your unicorn.

Talking about Your “Future” Together will not be Scary but Exciting

            

     Let’s be clear, this is not to say that when you find your unicorn you will immediately start planning your future together. Of course not. Planning and talking are two very separate things. You need to learn about one another and grow together. Your relationship needs time to fully develop, before you begin planning your future together. Talking about it however, is perfectly fine. It's a part of learning about your needs and desires with a potential lifelong partner. With your unicorn, talking about the future will not be a scary thing. It will happen very naturally. You will talk about goals in a life together, where you would live, how many kids you would want, and how you would want your life together to be. Sharing your visions of what you hope for in a future together, will bring you closer as a couple.

     You will also slowly start preparing yourself individually for a future with that person, even if you aren’t consciously aware you are doing so. You will begin to see your life in a new perspective, not of what your future will be alone, but with another person. You may start putting money back, or browsing real estate web sites to get ideas on good neighborhoods and housing prices. Even if consciously you know that starting a life with this person is a ways off, subconsciously you will have that desire to start getting ready for the possibility. You will do this, so when that time does comes you won’t have to wait. Let's face it, you won't want to. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be afraid of. Don’t let yourself get consumed with it, but enjoy it. It’s fun to think about the future, and smart to prepare yourself for it.

The Term “Best Friend” will have an Entirely New Meaning

             

     Most everyone has that person in their life that they call their best friend. It could be someone you grew up with or someone you met a few months ago. It’s just someone you have that special bond with. This is the person you tell everything to, who knows all of your secrets and understands you better than anyone else. Well when you find your unicorn, she will become your best friend, but in a completely different way. When you combine the qualities you seek in a best friend with the romantic love you have for your partner, it goes much deeper than what you have with any other best friend.

     When your partner becomes your best friend, it means you have reached a level in your relationship where you are completely comfortable and secure with that person. You trust them above any other, and you need to tell them everything. You will not be afraid to be vulnerable, and being completely open and honest with them will be a very natural thing. You will be able to read one another’s thoughts, and end each other’s sentences. This is because your connection with this person will be so strong, that you are able to communicate without even talking. When your unicorn becomes your best friend, you will never look at the term best friend the same way again. This person will be so much more than a best friend, they will be your other half, and in the end that is what a unicorn truly is.